some of the qualities that we most loved or admired in them. In all these ways, “we blend what they have given, and continue to give, into the life histories we reshape and redirect” (Attig 2001, 51). Continuing bonds may take other forms as well. For instance, some people feel that their deceased loved ones watch over and protect them. Others continue to define themselves, at least in part, in relationship to one who has died. A father whose young child died has said, “The earthly bond with my child